...what can be done?  

Let's face it, when dealing with your friends fairly new GF or BF, its important that their friends like them, right? I mean I put myself in their position - I want my friends to like my GF, its just normal.  I hangout with them, I hangout with my lady, I want everyone to get along - not a really tall order, if you ask me.  

Now I've talked to a few people about this, and seeing that its a pretty slow Monday for me, I wanted to ask you guys.  How have you dealt with it?  

This situation comes about because yesterday, my buddy invited me to go out on his boat with him and his GF to see an old HS friend.  My GF couldn't go, and the thought of spending hours with his GF was brutal so I decided just to drive home.  thoughts?

Grin and bear it - odds are if it is a new GF or BF then your friend won't want to hear it no matter what until the newness wears off.  Let it go for a while, suck it up and maybe you'll get to like them or they'll eventually part ways.

Oh, I've been in this situation many times.  I would have done what you did and gone home.  I don't know if this is the best way to handle it, but it's definitely what I would have done.  I guess eventually he'll ask you why you're avoiding him (even though it's not really him,) and you might have to level with him.  

My friend had a really, really weird girlfriend for a while.  We'd go out, and she'd just sit there and say NOTHING the whole time.  Then she'd periodically wander off, and we'd have to go look for her.  Then we'd bring her back and she'd, sit there and say nothing until she wandered off again.  If we walked anywhere, she wouldn't walk with us, but followed 50 feet behind us instead.  It made me really uncomfortable, and I stopped hanging out with him... until he moved onto the next really weird girlfriend.

Agree with Franco.

I agree with Franco- unless she's done something to you that is personally offensive, let it slide.

It's hard when you don't like the person your friend is dating. I keep it simple; give them space. Be nice when I have to. Only hang out with them if there are other ppl involved. Let my friend enjoy being happy, unless the significant other is totally wrong for my friend (ie., horrible person). Eventually, my friend would drop the person, lol.

Just let it slide don't let her separate you from your bud. My lifelong friend has a girlfriend I abhor but yet we still do the social thing civilly. Every once in a while I have to tell her to kiss my entire ass, but then we get over it.

See, its been a YEAR?!?  now and he still doesn't get it.  well, thats not entirely true - a few weekends ago (we hangout a lot in the summer bec we both go out east every weekend) , we went to see a band play and he got pretty liquored up.  I asked how things were going (I ask all the time, btw) and he said, "eh, she's OK.  Kinda pisses me of at times." -which, last summer, when they had just started dating, was fine.  this summer he is taking less and less of her shit.  this is it - he's Mr Wall St. - she is miss, born with a silver spoon.  she's weathered in every way possible, drugs, alcohol, cosmetic surgery, you name it she's been through it.  my bud's X (whom I liked quite a bit) was chill, fun, a bit more introverted but still from a rich family.  my thought is he likes the novelty of the "badass JAP" (no offense to the Jews on here) - the party girl, the girl who gets invited to the "society" events.  his brothers hate her, I'm sure his folks see through the facade now but no one has said anything.  it sucks, the only time I hang with him now  is when other people are around.....we were super close through elementary school and HS.....

I don't know about you guys but I can't stand around and watch my buddies dating girls I don't like.  I just can't watch them get taken advantage of.  I will let them know how I feel but will not be rude about it.  So far I haven't been wrong about the bad girls they have dated and they have thanked me for telling them what I see.

Saving Silverman

I usually make myself scarce.  I don't think its my duty as a friend to pretend to like someone when I don't.  I  might go to events that involve the freind the BF/GF and other friends and be polite and arms lenght friendly, I'll still hang out with the friend on thier own but will definately avoid hanging out with them as a couple.

right on Joise! I am who I am and if who I am doesn't get along with my buddies GF, so be it, right?  I've tried to be civil but she's totally the rich, IN YOUR FACE girl.  everything she does is better, the parties she goes to are cooler and the people she dates are more important.  if I could ignore her, I totally would but its literally IMPOSSIBLE.  then what do you do? I chose not to hang at all.....which sucks too.

talk to your buddy about it.

We're kind of having this problem now with my friends... his girlfriend won't let us hang out with him unless she's there, she has the mentality of a 12 year old and she calls him constantly asking what he's doing. My best friends don't drink, don't go to clubs and spend more time skating and going to shows than anything else, she has NOTHING to worry about it. And it's put a damper in my relationship with my best friend because apparently he can no longer hang out with me unless other people are around. It's ridiculous but he's the type to not say anything so we've been gong out without him lately.. it sucks but its better than her giving all of us the evil eye all night.

The R. -

That chick sounds super annoying - I don't know if I would be able to maintain polite and arms length friendliness.  Might have to avoid her all together!  Yikes!

It sucks though.  Hopefully your friend will come to his senses or at least realize that he doesn't need to spend every second with this chick and that he can and should still spend time with his friends with out her.  His realationship with her is obviously important but that doesn't mean that all his other realationships aren't.

I would suggest planning "guys" night/afternoon.  Next time you going to watch a game, play a game, pool, go fishing (anything a prissy sounding girl would not like) invite him along but make it clear its guys ONLY.  Ask him to help fix your car or help you move.

see I have been real, real civil even AFTER the nightmare NYE last winter where my GF and I decided to head up to his ski cabin for a mellow, party filled NYE outside NYC. Ha!  we wish.  it was awful, every dinner wasn't good enough, her snowboarding skills were way below what she was yammering about and her friend was equally annoying, albiet a lot more quiet.  I've tried the "hang with dudes" thing it just seems like she is always around.  the kicker is he doesn't even like her that much!  wtf?  what a chump.  wish he would get back with his X.

its sad.. my gorgeous, intelligent, best friend started dating a guy who was
1. rude
2. unintelligent
3. unattractive
4. obnoxious, was a baby if no one paid attention to him, once refused to eat at her bday dinner because they seated us 20 minutes later than our reservation (mind you it was a table for 15 people, what can you expect!)
5. unambitious/lazy at work
6. all of her friends including myself hated him

it was sad, and it was creating a bit of a distance between us because she asked me what i thought about him and i told her everything, with backup and examples. (because if they ask, you gotta tell!) she then proceeded to defend her decision to date him while i just sat quietly and nodded. and even threw the "if i find someone better..." card. you NEVER find someone better when you bring your bf to every social event!

anyhow she recently moved abroad for work and while i miss her tons, i look forward to her telling me she met an amazing guy, someone that deserves her and can keep up with all her wonderful traits.

poison her

brutal Mary.  woah....

i'm not doing them so i feel sorry for the friends and grin+bear it while i hang out with them.

Get them hooked on strippers and hope they graduate to prostitutes.

you guys have no idea how much I wanna do all these things to her.....

if she is so horrible that you can't stand her, chances are the relationship won't last. stick it out, then you can make fun of her after sufficient time has past after the inevitable break up.

Mary you are funny. you're my idol of the day.

It's hard to like all of your friends' sig others. Whether we like it or not, these dudes and dudettes are gonna be around for awhile.

If its a group thing then bite the bullet. If not, I take myself out of the equation and just hang with my friends one on one.

its been over a year!  he's been dragging this chick along for months now....and seeing that its summer and his folks have a SICK house out east, its no wonder she's still hanging around....I just wish she wouldn't talk.

stuff a sock in her mouth.

try throwing popcorn at her face and see if you make a basket.

tell her to shut it or a bug might fly in.

tell her she needs to brush her teeth. that will shut her up.