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- Tom B.
- Brooklyn, NY
- 100 friends
- 69 reviews
Saturday night I was with a large group of people at a house party. All sorts of mixed couples and singles. A very heated debate started about who controls( wears the pants) in a heterosexual relationship. There were arguments on both sides, name-calling, cursing, and tears. The general consensus in the room was that women have the last say in decisions for the couple. Both sexes agreed on that but the men seemed to be pissed off. One man said it was the power of the p**sy and if you want it, you have to play along. I was exhausted by night's end and all I did was listen! So Yelper's, do women wear the pants in a relationship?
8/27/2007 -
- Natalia M.
- Park Slope, Brooklyn, NY
- 235 friends
- 178 reviews
I think it really depends on the couple and the personality of the guy and the girl. If the guy is generally laid back, or just plain whipped, then the girl always decides. If the girl is very submissive in nature, then the guy has the last say. Sometimes neither wants to admit the truth, and thus you find yourself in heated debates over a simple matter on Saturday nights.
8/27/2007 -
- Suzanne G.
- New York, NY
- 98 friends
- 261 reviews
I know I do!
8/27/2007 -
- victoria v.
- Staten Island, NY
- 236 friends
- 299 reviews
i agree with natalia. it completely depends on the individuals, and their couple dynamic!!
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- Liiisa C.
- New York, NY
- 4812 friends
- 195 reviews
victoria h. says:
i agree with natalia. it completely depends on the individuals, and their couple dynamic!!
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It also depends on the situation.
Given X circumstance, I think the more informed person should... guide the final decision.
Why does it have to be all or nothing regarding who is in control? Swap off.8/27/2007 -
- Jase E.
- New York, NY
- 65 friends
- 118 reviews
If everyone would just buy some pants with elastic waistbands, then everyone can wear the pants!
Hopefully, that's the situation with most couples; I'd hate to believe there's only 1 person making final decisions on everything in the relationship.8/27/2007 -
- Steve M.
- Kingsley Lake, FL
- 351 friends
- 292 reviews
"There were arguments on both sides, name-calling, cursing, and tears."
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Sounds like a grand time, Tom! Please remind me to *not* attend any of your friends' parties! (j/k [sorta])8/27/2007 -
- AssholeJohnson X.
- Death Valley, CA
- 32 friends
- 0 reviews
I think it's ok if a woman wants to wear pants but I prefer dresses or skirts. I don't look good in dresses or skirts so I usually wear the pants.
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- Maria M.
- New York, NY
- 242 friends
- 507 reviews
Interesting.......I hate hearing about guys/girls cancelling their own plans because the other person wants to do something and there's no room being left for compromise. So I avoid being like that. I don't have the desire to wear the pants in the relationship, but I do want to be recognized as an equal partner. I don't want my bf to be known as "whipped". I don't want to be "whipped" either.
8/27/2007 -
- Tom B.
- Brooklyn, NY
- 100 friends
- 69 reviews
Steve, I was miserable! These people were not really my friends. I went to the party with a friend from school. I was amazed at how everything escalated so quickly. All I did was fill up on the free liquor and food!
8/27/2007 -
- Steve M.
- Kingsley Lake, FL
- 351 friends
- 292 reviews
Tom, in a situation like that, I think you chose the only logical and reasonable course of action. Sorry your buddy dragged you to such a nightmare!
8/27/2007 -
- Diana B.
- New York, NY
- 252 friends
- 1662 reviews
It ssooooo depends on the relationship.
8/27/2007 -
- roderick A.
- Jersey City, NY
- 187 friends
- 766 reviews
Jenifer D. says:
But I realize, I am more attracted to a man who has a stronger personality than me so that he can be the leader. I don't like weak guys.
*****
there go my chances.8/27/2007 -
- Michelle I.
- San Francisco, CA
- 877 friends
- 629 reviews
i like having a balance personally..... i definitely have a strong personality and "try" to dominate but prefer a guy who also has a strong personality and can tell me when to shut up. haha
i like men with backbones so we can take turns on wearing the pants.
i've dated passive men who let me wear the pants all the time and i got bored with them..... naturally.
then again, i've seen some relationships where one person or the other dominates and they work out fine. to each his own8/27/2007 -
- Jessica F.
- New York, NY
- 86 friends
- 252 reviews
Any guy who reverts to the tired "power of the p**sy" argument isn't man enough to have a girlfriend. There are two people in a relationship so there should be two points of view, and sometimes one person will get their way and sometimes the other one will. Peter is a jazz freak, and I just can't stand it. I have sat through endless jazz with him. H\e wants to go, he loves it, I love him--what are you gonna do? I go, I drink, we go home. He goes to plenty of stuff I like that he hates. If one or both people is immature, it doesn't matter who wears the pants, the relationship is doomed.
8/27/2007 -
- Mary L.
- VA, VA
- 55 friends
- 297 reviews
In most of the relationships I've been around, it's usually the women.
8/27/2007 -
- Caroline A.
- Fairfax, VA
- 1093 friends
- 1103 reviews
I let him think he's wearing the pants, but I'm definitely am the boss. Hehe.
I'm with Jen. I like guys with very strong personalities too, but I still like to wear the pants.8/27/2007 -
- k s.
- New York, NY
- 44 friends
- 145 reviews
it all depends on the situation and circumstances... me n pam have to 2 different views most of the time , but we always come up with a solution.
I personally believe compromise plays a big part in a relationship and everything has a solution8/27/2007 -
- PJ G.
- New York, NY
- 309 friends
- 231 reviews
Men in kilts are very sexy!
If I was dating a guy who was spineless....let's just say it would end very quickly. Who wants to date a guy who's every other phrase is "yes dear." UGH.
I think I'm still single because I'm looking for a guy to be my equal in a relationship. Sigh.8/27/2007 -
- Steve M.
- Kingsley Lake, FL
- 351 friends
- 292 reviews
If it was that Subway Sandwich guy, Jared, both could wear the pants - simultaneously! (provided they were his old pants, that is):
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- John B.
- New York, NY
- 4738 friends
- 674 reviews
The most satisfying relationships I've been in have always been those where the woman wore the pants. Women may not always say it, but they their man to defer to them in a relationship. It's just smarter to go along and understand that when she's happy; the guy is happy. Female led relationships are the natural order and if you're interested in learning more about them, check out the book, 'Venus on Top' by Barbara Wright Abernathy - it's an eye-opener, for women and men.
8/28/2007 -
- Ed B.
- Chatham, NJ
- 24 friends
- 6 reviews
SO this great big guy from Texas marries this tiny Little petite girl from New York. On their wedding night he takes off his pants , hands them to his new bride , and says "here, try these on!" She tries, and tries, but no matter what she does they just won't stay on her tiny frame. Her new husband looks at her, and says, "well now you know who's gonna wear the pants in this here marriage!" The new bride is a bit shocked, and dismayed by her new husbands attitude, so she reaches into her dresser drawer, and takes out a pair of her very small panties, and hands them to her new husband, and says " here hon, try these on". The big guy tries, and tries, but no matter what he does, he just can't fit. He looks at her, and says " I just can't get into them". His new wife smiles at him, and says "that's right, and until you change your attitude you never will !!"
8/28/2007 -
- Maria M.
- New York, NY
- 242 friends
- 507 reviews
Good one, Ed!
8/28/2007 -
- PJ G.
- New York, NY
- 309 friends
- 231 reviews
Ed- excellent!
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