Soo, here goes.  I met this really really pretty chick at Santana Row.  We went on a couple dates.  We kissed.  But 1 thing I dont get is when I call or text her she wont respond....  I think its pretty rude.  She will call me on her terms and I really think that is messed up.  She knows I like her, and she never told me she likes me, she says im sweet and cool.  That is it.  Im lost and confused......

Apparently she's already giving you "issues". My advice is to either bring this concern up (be ready for her reaction) or just give her more time. You've only gone out twice (?).
She's probably not as interested in you as you are in her.
If I really like a guy, I'd spare some time to reply to his messages or answer his calls/call him back. Guys that I like I find worthy of my time (applies to friends too). However, if I do not fancy a guy and he keeps texting or calling me, I'd reply to his messages as diplomatically as possible.
Um, I'm not sure about women who play hard-to-get but that's more apparent in girls. Women know what they want and don't play games.
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She is already in a relationship that's why she's acting like that

well, every woman is different...

but if i was doing this, then its because i'm not interested (for whatever reason) and i don't want to hurt his feelings.

i will tell him he's sweet and cool, but the truth is that there's no spark or connection, so there's no reason for me to respond to calls or texts from the guy.

^ I have to agree with that.

Sounds like she already put you in the "Friend" zone.  If she says only "you're sweet and cute". and does not make too much effort to go out or answer her phone makes me think she thinks of you as just a friend.  Either that or as Davonda said, she's in a relationship already.  Like AC said, she might not have felt that "spark".

Why are you being so easy to get? Its a big warning sign to girls when a guy spills his heart and soul just after a few meals. She isn't already giving you issues. I'd say you are a stage 4 clinger.

Move on...she was just looking for "fun". Not worth it, plenty of girls out there.

+1 Priscilla! Was about to say the same. You sound like you caught feelings on only two dates. Just this post alone smells of low self esteem, neediness, cling-o-matic. Women have a sense for that. She's probably just hitting you up when she's bored and going out with you when she has nothing to do.

Thanks for all your advice, very much appricated  =)

You actually met a girl in the bay area. Not bad!

Not much to add that hasn't already been said... In think Veronica hit the nail on the head right off the bat: if you're worried, tell her what's bothering you. Either that, or just accept that she's not that into you!

Single pretty chick = more than 1 guy trying to get w her. A girl that is into a guy would get excited over a text and would definitely text right back. Sorry but it sounds like ur somewhat of a backup plan?

I don't think Francis is being clingy. He's just airing out his concern that he doesn't get timely responses from a girl who apparently showed some reciprocity towards his attraction for her at one time.
If she's inconsistent, Francis, and it's giving you a bad feeling (confusion etc), and you don't want to tell her about it (since you only went out a few times), then move on. :-)

She is not into you. Get over it, and move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea.

Don't waste anymore time on her.

Went through the same problem dude, don't even sweat it. Let her come looking for you and or let her go!

Its a game. You either play or you leave. She may chase after you if you leave though. Might be a good gamble.

The next time she calls she better be giving up some ass.  If she is calling you only when she wants to see you, and you take her out and pay for things without getting some...wow.  Being someone's on call piece is only worth it if you are actually getting some action rather than being taken to the cleaners.

She's probaly married

Bang her friend

Agree with Luis. If she's playing you, you best get something out of it. Otherwise you're just getting played, cause she's the only one in the game.

You are but a pawn, and she is the queen on the chessboard and playground which she likes to play on. Her terms, or no terms. Her rules, yours do not count.

       She does not respond when you text or call, because she already belongs to another and is under HIS control. Her master will severely punish her if he even remotely thinks she is messing with someone else. He will also seek revenge on the perpetrator, YOU. So watch your back, and move on to someone else that is not already involved in a relationship.

Women play hard to get when they think they're better then you. If she is hot, and you're not, you will have to play there game and not the other way around.

Do they?

Maybe she is busy, you text HER on your own terms don't you, does she have a job? Maybe when you're trying to contact her she is doing something and can't reply right away. It never hurts to ask but don't just assume she put you in the "friend" zone or is blowing you of on purpose.  Communication is key isn't it, and its not a conversation that should be had over text, so next time you go out ask her where she stands and be ready to respect her choices.  Good luck :)

So Francis, after all these responses, how do you feel???

I cumulatively wasted many months of my life holding onto hope in situations like this.

There are multiple possible reasons for the signs you're getting from her.  But whichever the reason, these signs are signs that it's not going to work out with her.  Drop her and forget about trying to guess the reason.

Jizz on her first

Then cut out

@Francis:  As others have stated, she's probably not interested.  Or, she's in another relationship.

This rule applies to both sexes.  If they don't call back, then they're NOT interested.  Even if someone close to them just died, they will call if they're interested.....at least, that's how guys are.

As far as women playing hard to get, I think even if that's her ploy, she's not going to be rude about it just for the sake of "playing hard to get".  She would still answer calls or return calls.  You may just play phone tag with her a lot.  

Can the women here confirm this for me?

Long, I never play hard-to-get cuz it's not fair for me or the other person. I wouldn't waste my time like that. If I like the guy, he has my attention ! If I don't, then yeah, I'll possibly ignore the texts or calls and diplomatically respond one at a time. Eventually hoping the guy will get it.

@Francis.. what do you mean by on her terms?

The reason I ask is because maybe I'm old school but within 24 hours is an acceptable time frame for me to respond to someone. However with popularity of text, IM, email, etc, now people expect these instant responses. I use to have one friend who would flip out if someone didn't text or call within seconds of her text message. I think that is over the top. So how much time are we talking here? Are you part of the generation of instant gratification or are you being reasonable by giving her at least a day to respond?

Is it possible that because it has only been a few dates, she's still getting to know you and wants to figure out if you are for her or not?

Long, u have a point. If someone purposely plays hard to get then there's an interest there. The guy would just have to pass the test or something.

In this case, I think the girl has something or someone she prioritizes more

I swear, LA is so much better for dating.  In this respect, the bay area sucks.

Women play hard to get because when the guy finally gets it the sex is amazing.

I haven't really found a difference between the sex I've gotten.  More importantly, the amount of effort didn't determine the level of commitment that I was going to have for the girl.

Problem number one: You met her on Santana Row (everyone knows that most of the girls are just gold diggers and professional "photographers").

@Luis, would you say it was a plethora of women in your past?  (el guapo j/k from The Three Amigos) lol

Yes dan, a plethora and some!

@Robert Z:  Regarding the dating scene in SoCal, I guess it depends on what you want.  I think SoCal are wilder.....more slutty.  However, I've found that A LOT of the women down there are all about money.  Of course, you can say that about anywhere.  But, it's so much more obvious and nonchalant down there with regards to the other person's finances, how famous there are, what kind of car they drive, etc.  

I worked down there for about 6 months.  Sure, the girls are hotter down there.  But, I found it quite amusing when I would hear their conversations.

She's just not that into you! In my opinion, girls are kind of like guys.... (or I am anyway) if I like a guy I make time to respond and it won't be a short response especially if I'm busy and can't respond right away. If I don't like you, I'll respond but won't be as quick, long or interested lol sad but true!  Even if you only went out a couple of times if you already get the feeling that she's not into you, she's probably not. OR you're being insecure and totally overanalyzing which is the worst thing to ever do!

Date more women at the same time.
Don't get upset when you don't get the attention you want.
Women respond to action and body language, not your words unless you are Cyrano.
Me thinks it's time for you to move on.

you're her benchwarmer

Who knows?  In my experience, if it starts to seem like a hassle or not a lot of fun or you're getting frustrated, it's best to just move on.  Wouldn't you rather be with someone that replied to you?  Go find her.  I think I saw her across the street at Valley Fair, in fact.

Ha I'll tell my sister to stop  messing with u

Sorry Francis...been there done that (without the kissing). The fade sucks. Cut your losses and move on.

Cute Corgi BTW