match.com vs e-harmony vs craigslist ! (online dating)

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9/18/2008 jeff "walking.Yelp.com" c. says:

Match has the hot diggers
Eharmony has the bugly but serious ones
Craigslist has the poco loco ones
Yahoo has the poor struggling ones

That's what a lil' birdie told me =)

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9/18/2008 Kaelea "Crack Fox" A. says:

lexy, use nerve.
the dudes are cuter and more creative types.

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9/18/2008 jeff "walking.Yelp.com" c. says:

she didn't ask about those...or village voice hah!

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9/18/2008 Janine "enjoying the simple things!" W. says:

I have two friends who met their current spouses on http://Match.com - they did it witin the 6 month period where it was free!

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9/18/2008 Janine "enjoying the simple things!" W. says:

Lexy, Don't forget about http://sugardaddie.com if you are into that kind of thing ;)

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9/18/2008 victoria "mama snark" v. says:

i vote for http://yelp.com

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9/18/2008 victoria "mama snark" v. says:

but that would mean you would have to write some reviews.

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9/18/2008 Lexy "The Taste Bud Diva" M. says:

Haha I heard of http://SugarDaddie.com, that is pretty funny. There is a dating site for almost every type. But i'm more laid back... just looking for meet normal guys from NY. Not looking for high income... just a cutie with brains and good taste in food! lol

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9/18/2008 Laura J. says:

Nerve membership comes with free herpes.
CL really is for the poco loco but at least it's free poco loco.

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9/18/2008 Lexy "The Taste Bud Diva" M. says:

p.s I'm not looking to meet guys on yelp though (lol)
. Friends are always welcome though, i'm a newbie!

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9/18/2008 Steven "Team Snarky™" V. says:

lol

gah

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9/18/2008 Lexy "The Taste Bud Diva" M. says:

Free herpes! Alright Laura! What I have been searching for. (Scared) lol
Aren't we all a bit poco loco at times? ;)

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9/18/2008 Steven "Team Snarky™" V. says:

lol!

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9/18/2008 Mexican "Jumpin' Frijol" S. says:

poco loco on yelp is to say the least...ha

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9/18/2008 R "Meat baby" P. says:

I think we've hit on the reason why Laura J. won't reveal her pic.

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9/18/2008 victoria "mama snark" v. says:

idk

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9/18/2008 Matthew "The Sweet Titz" S. says:

rofl

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9/18/2008 Jessica "s'cuse me, what?" M. says:

I have a friend who met her man on CL. They jst got married in August. I met my boyfriend on CL too. He's benevolently loco. But, only un poco.

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9/18/2008 victoria "mama snark" v. says:

Courtney..not sure if that is a recommendation, or warning.....

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9/18/2008 Steven "Team Snarky™" V. says:

who wants to take a chance?

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9/18/2008 Steven "Team Snarky™" V. says:

omg lol!!

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9/18/2008 Mike S. says:

lmfho!!!

*:-0

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9/18/2008 Mexican "Jumpin' Frijol" S. says:

wtf is this: a soiree of giggling girls?

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9/18/2008 Matt "The Beardy Dude (Fresh Ink Edition)" L. says:

God, I hope so.

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9/18/2008 Mike S. says:

that's the site I use http://asoireeofgiggli...

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9/18/2008 Mexican "Jumpin' Frijol" S. says:

HA

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9/18/2008 Matt "The Beardy Dude (Fresh Ink Edition)" L. says:

Let me also say that the part of dating you can do online is the least fun part.

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9/18/2008 Lexy "The Taste Bud Diva" M. says:

Lol.. funny yelpers ;)

So honestly though.. between http://Match.com and http://E-Harmony.com.. which one is better? lol I am going to give one of those a shot.. those thousands of tv ads haved grabbed my attention. (I know, I'm a sucker)

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9/18/2008 victoria "mama snark" v. says:

seriously though..I've been on both...and met my husband on yelp!

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9/18/2008 michelle "champagne bubblehead" i. says:

LOLZ! funny thread alert

victoria-- "yelp is not a dating site" hahaha : )

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9/18/2008 tara g. says:

wait which one is for the uglies? i need to join i was on match noone wrote to me :/

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9/18/2008 Peter "Insert witty name" A. says:

You could try http://Nerve.com if that sites still up. Never tried eHarmony, but I heard some ppl find men/women they like. Match is eh, plus I heard they actually send their own people out to date you in order to keep you subscribed longer...messed up eh?

wanna meet a yelper, then keep reviewing and eventually you'll be an elite member. From there you'll be able to enjoy the cool parties where you can meet other yelpers like yourself.

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9/18/2008 Andrew D. says:

there's always http://crazyblinddate.com... although the one time i tried it, i got setup with someone i knew already!

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9/18/2008 Valerie "dreamerinresidence" P. says:

Wow, people have met quality people on Craigslist?? I'm amazed and dumbstruck...

My vote is Match. There are a lot more men on there and you can see pics and try it out without having paid, where eHarmony won't let you even see pics without being a member which blows. How do you that any of the people on there would be attractive to you.

Does anyone use Lavalife anymore? I always wonder that when I see the ads in the subway but no one ever mentions it in these dating threads.

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9/18/2008 R "Meat baby" P. says:

I have a friend who is a serial Craigslist, uh, "dater." He's white with a soft spot for Asian women and he is VERY successful at picking them up. In the last six months, I'd guess that he's slept with at least 8 or 9 women off of there. He's also slept with non-Asian women from there but has a lower batting average.

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9/18/2008 Michael "Weatness ® ™ 2009 All RIghts Reserved" F. says:

"have came"?

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9/19/2008 Kate "the present king of france" T. says:

Match has always sucked, i never found anyone worth looking at twice. Through Craigslist i met lots of flakes and liars. E-harmony offends me deeply for many reasons.

Consider http://okcupid.com?

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9/19/2008 Marlo W. says:

I was an internet dater for 10 years and used every site (sad, yes, I know): Match, e-harmony, okcupid, JDate, nerve, Yahoo, AOL, JWed, SawYouAtSinai, CrazyBlindDate---not to mention MeetUp and a bunch of other singles social gathering sites. As a result, I spent a lot of money and have tons of funny stories to tell---and I learned a lot about myself and what I like and don't care for.

People are on those sites for lots of different reasons and you have to hope that someone who's wanting the same thing you're in search of is on there at the same time as you.

Early this year, my frustration came to a head and I knew I had to do something to change things...so I joined Facebook and very unlike me, added every dating app I could find---including Flirtable. Right after adding it, I clicked on a guy, sending him a flirt (which I didn't know that's what happened if you clicked on them!!!).

That was February 10th and we've been together ever since and are extremely happy. He's everything I was looking for and I can't believe I found him, on Facebook no less!

Good luck, Lexy! I know how tough it is and I wish you well---just maximize your options! :)

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9/19/2008 Sara W. says:

E-harmony makes you take a test that takes over an hour, then tells you your "results," basically pointing out what the computer thinks your flaws are from tons of word-association questions. Then after ripping you to shreds, it pairs you up with other people who had the patience to complete the friggin' test and who's flaws are "compatible" with yours. I did the free trial ages ago and lasted two weeks. WAY too intense.

Perhaps you should open yourself up to Yelp and other possibilities, and like Vic says, write some reviews! Good luck.

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9/19/2008 Kate "the present king of france" T. says:

Sara's description of her eharmony experience pretty much matches my own. But on the up side, you're only going to meet people who had the patience (or lack of other ways to spend their time) to go through the whole thing as well. I know two people who are happily married to people they met on eharmony. I don't know anyone else married to anyone they met through a dating site.

From a design perspective though, the eharmony profile tests are horrible. Or at least were 3 years ago, maybe someone finally pointed out to them that their scales shouldn't randomly flip. That's not how you randomize a test.

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9/19/2008 George "Georgie boo boo" L. says:

For some reason i getting very depressed after reading these posts.... =(

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9/19/2008 Laura J. says:

So Lexy, did this thread get you any bites from lonely yelpers?
Dating sites aren't really a great place to meet platonic friends.
Is that really what you want Lexy?
The guys who pay money to be on those sites are mostly looking for some combination of sex, and a girlfriend.
If you meet someone off a dating site expect guys to think they're on a date.
OkCupid, Craigslist, Facebook.... it's a little let overt then Match or Eharmony.

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9/19/2008 Peter "pedro" K. says:

Rocky "Lenny Bruce" P. says:
I have a friend who is a serial Craigslist, uh, "dater." He's white with a soft spot for Asian women and he is VERY successful at picking them up. In the last six months, I'd guess that he's slept with at least 8 or 9 women off of there. He's also slept with non-Asian women from there but has a lower batting average.
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I never knew you and Dean Marsan were friends!

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9/19/2008 George "Georgie boo boo" L. says:

I was temtped to be one of the lonely yelpers lol but she said no yelp dates. I never thought being a yelp affiliate might prevent me from getting a date, I better keep this on the down low next time im on a date ;D

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9/19/2008 e l. says:

its a crap shoot regardless

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9/19/2008 Eugene B. says:

Recently, this girl told me what http://nerve.com was. I checked it out and I thought it was a porn site.

I usually pick up drunk chicks at the bar near closing time.

Soon as he buy that wine I just creep up from behind
And ask what your interests are, who you be with
Things to make you smile, what numbers to dial
You gonna be here for a while, I'm gonna go call my crew
You go call your crew
We can rendezvous at the bar around 2

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9/19/2008 jeff "walking.Yelp.com" c. says:

seems like you want to have some NSA fun, in which case I recommend match over eharmony.

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9/19/2008 Craig "Mr. Pinchy" N. says:

Lexy, I think should buy a slew of medical props like fake bandages, crutches, an eyepatch, and maybe even an extra fake appendage. Then, depending on your mood, you can get dressed up and cruise the emergency rooms and/or law offices for potential (and highly qualified, I might add) candidates.

See? I'm smart, creative, funny........

Hey, someone had to do it.

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9/21/2008 Lauren "the chocoholic" H. says:

I have a profile up currently on match, I've been on a few dates with some decent guys, but there was no chemistry, so they didn't go far. There was this one weirdo I met this past winter who actually wore UGGS on the date! It took all the self control I had not to crack up in his face.

Craigslist guys are pretty interesting, most of them just want an NSA relationship but I met some great guys from there who I'm still friends with. I actually dated a hot chef from CL for a few months, and I met my best friend from it also. We dated for a bit, I broke up with him, and he still wanted to be friends, so now we're really close.

Eharmony- I wasn't rejected but only had a membership for about a month cuz a relative of mine felt that I should settle down soon. LMAO. I was matched with ppl waaay older than me, or they were something like, "6 months clean & sober". Sorry, but I likes my booze!

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9/21/2008 Rickster "The Original Non-Elite Elite" Q. says:

I met my SO on-line...we are both exec level professionals who work a ton of hours, so the internets stuff seemed to work for us.

Given my crazy schedule, I tried every dating option under the sun and I met many more realistic, quality, and honest people online than I did in other venues (friends, bars, social groups, etc.). Sure, I met my share of moon bats and assorted loons, but my most memorable "Dates from Hell" stories have been from sources other than online.

And I have numerous friends and acquaintances who met their long-term SO or spouse online.

As to the dating sites, most folks we know went down the http://Match.com path. Almost everyone I know that tried E-Harmony either got bounced or had bad experiences.

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9/21/2008 Louis "BiG LoU" D. says:

I say the old fashion way.

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9/22/2008 Julie "home sweet home" A. says:

You can always try http://plentyoffish.com

However, when dating online or in real life, you still find the liars and whatnot. Hahaha. Its' much easier to lie online than in person. I met a dude whose profile said he wasn't into drugs and he had a car. Nope. He has no car and he does weed, coke, and ecstacy. And on top of that, he is an alcoholic and doesn't even have a job! Lol. I met other people who were more level headed but just be aware that what you see online is not always what you get.

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09/19/2008 Eugene "Pac-Man" B. says:

Recently, this girl told me what http://nerve.com was. I checked it out and I thought it was a porn site.

I usually pick up drunk chicks at the bar near closing time.

Soon as he buy that wine I just creep up from behind
And ask what your interests are, who you be with
Things to make you smile, what numbers to dial
You gonna be here for a while, I'm gonna go call my crew
You go call your crew
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Hahahhaa ok biggie smalls

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9/22/2008 roderick A. says:

i tend to meet my ladies at bars and clubs myself. I feel personal interaction is much better. So yes, you can find me in the club, bottle full of bub. Look mami I got the X if you into taking drugs. I'm into having sex, I ain't into making love. So come give me a hug if you into getting rubbed.

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9/22/2008 Meredith "merryberry" F. says:

I'd do http://match.com vs. e-harmony, but beware of the following:
1. People who only have 1 or 2 pictures up- especially if they look grainy and old, like they were scanned in. Also, make sure they are smiling (like showing teeth) in at least one.
2. Guys who look different in every picture they have up. (I know this sounds shallow, but the number 1 problem I've had with online dating is visual misrepresentation!) When you talk to them on the phone before meeting up (which I highly recommend), ask them how recent their pictures are. Trust me- anything over a year is suspect.
3. Guys who say they are on http://match.com just looking for "friends" and then see what happens. This means they want a f* buddy, and they're willing to pay a monthly fee for it.
4. I personally pay very close attention to the way a profile is written. If there are grammar and spelling errors everywhere, it means they couldn't even take time on their dating profile, so they wil probably show that type of carelessness with how they treat you! (And it also puts their intelligence into question...)
Good luck- it's rough out there!

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9/23/2008 Lexy "The Taste Bud Diva" M. says:

UPDATE:

So I did the free trial on http://Match.com and canceled right away!!! (lol)

In only a matter of 24 hours, I had 20 winks, 15 messages and found an ex-boyfriend, 2 guys I dated, a coworker that is married but listed as single and 3 girlfriends who secretly had profiles and never told me! WHEW! Crazy-ness!

I came to realize that in my opinion http://Match.com is definitely more of a "for fun" dating site and used by many guys as an easy way of hooking up with multi girls. If your just looking to casually date or hook up then I think http://Match.com is a great way of going about it... but knowing the STD rate in NY these days... I think I might try a diff route. Ha-

I also Joined E-Harmony... have not paid yet. I honestly like how E-Harmony takes the time to match you with someone who is more like yourself and guys can't go cruising around for a hot chick to stalk. Or vice versa.

I figured if a guy takes the time to actually fill this thing out and has paid to be apart of E-Harmony that he overall might actually be a genuine guy (or so I hope). I'm going to wait till the Holiday Season passes and I can focus more time on reading about my matches on E-Harmony before I pay.

I just plain out don't feel like buying someone new a Christmas Gift yet. ;o)

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9/23/2008 jeff "walking.Yelp.com" c. says:

wtf did i tell you? must you u learn the hard way

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9/23/2008 Lexy "The Taste Bud Diva" M. says:

Mom raised a stubborn little girl. I'm bad to the bone what can I say. ;o)

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9/23/2008 Nanda C. says:

I tried both and disliked both. I would take Ms. J "Yelp Addict" A.'s suggestion and do the POF since it's at least free.

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9/23/2008 Jeff "Veal Armstrong" O. says:

http://settle.com

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9/23/2008 Kate "the present king of france" T. says:

http://okcupid.com is free too...

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9/23/2008 erik "my stomach is bigger than my heart" s. says:

I heard u instantenously get crabs when a craiglist's personal appears on your computer screen

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9/24/2008 Laura J. says:

I have a friend who used eharmony (no really, it was a friend i swear. teehee) and she told me they matched her with total gimps. even after the fucking mile long compatibility test. It made her want to slit her wrists.

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9/24/2008 peter d. says:

Laura, are you worried that we'll judge you? We know you so well.

And define 'total gimps.'

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9/24/2008 George "Georgie boo boo" L. says:

By the way are STDs that rampant in NY? (now more paranoid!)

@Nanda What is POF?

@Meredith - how many people did you meet without teeth? lol

Hmmmm... online dating starting to be interesting.....

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9/24/2008 Lauren "the chocoholic" H. says:

Lmao George. Um, well I remember a report a few months ago that 1 in 4 NYers has herpes, vs. 1 in 5 for the national average.

POF is http://plentyoffish.com- a free dating website.

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9/24/2008 Kate "the present king of france" T. says:

George "Georgie boo boo" L. says:
By the way are STDs that rampant in NY? (now more paranoid!)

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Don't you read the yelp STD threads? 1 in 4 NYC residents has the herpes, and new HIV infection rates are something like double in NYC what they are in the rest of the country. It's like New Yorkers have a lot of unprotected sex or something.

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9/24/2008 Janine "enjoying the simple things!" W. says:

That is pretty scary. WTF.

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9/24/2008 Renvie "MObreezy" R. says:

yupppp...so much shit out there!!!! Scary!

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9/24/2008 Janine "enjoying the simple things!" W. says:

Protection. It isn't that difficult.

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9/24/2008 Juan "I encourage you to please question my logic" C. says:

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9/24/2008 George "Georgie boo boo" L. says:

Awwww... i should stop sharing drinks with strangers.

One day I want to invent some tool to point at someone and see if they got a STD. That would be super!!!!

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9/24/2008 vicki "Votey Vix" M. says:

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9/27/2008 Jonathan "superjonbot" R. says:

+1 http://personals.pucke..., I think its the same as nerve. Lots of creative types which I'm into. Everyone knows artists do it better ;). Also tried eharmony only because its seemed scientific and all and there was a special for like $14 bux a month. After taking a ridiculously long annoying questionnaire, it started matching me up with people who are clearly NOT my type. I close about 95% of its matches, and now it matches me with someone like once a week now, I rarely bother signing on there anymore. puckerup is the way to go, not only are the people better looking, the profiles are more interesting to read.

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9/30/2008 Lucy "The Professional Jumper" L. says:

Have you tried SPEED DATING.. save you sometimes to setup accounts as well as fees..

Just a thought :-)

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9/30/2008 Joolie "mzjoolz if you're nasty!" T. says:

i've never used a dating site- nor do i plan on using them. i hear too many horror stories!
whatever happened to using Yelp as a dating site? bwahahaha. j/k j/k!

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9/30/2008 Lexy "The Taste Bud Diva" M. says:

After reading all advice and scary, creepy & sometimes alright experiences of my Yelpers with "online dating"... I think I am content with just being single & enjoying my new Yelp Hobbie. :o)

I have tons of books to catch up on also! lol

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9/30/2008 Muna "Bad Mamma Jamma" K. says:

Online dating NYC is just as frustrating as offline dating in NYC. Sigh.

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9/30/2008 Brandon "Dago Red" K. says:

Yeah, stick with yelp... you'll feel much better.

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10/16/2008 Irina "too __ for you to handle" D. says:

Lexy, in case you feel like giving online dating another try, I suggest okcupid like Kate mentioned, its free and has decent people on it, I know a few people who started dating someone they met on that site, and even if you dont find anything serious, its still a fun website to use

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10/16/2008 Toy "I am Cornholio" L. says:

Someone needs to try one of those sugar daddy sites and let me know whats up

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10/16/2008 Mike "Lookin for Latika" S. says:

I have gottten Greatt Head off Craiigslist

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10/16/2008 Mike "Lookin for Latika" S. says:

I have gottten Greatt Head off Craiigslist

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10/16/2008 Toy "I am Cornholio" L. says:

i havent met anyone from online since Blackplanet was in style back in the day.

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10/16/2008 George "Georgie boo boo" L. says:

so good you had to post it twice?

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10/16/2008 jeff "walking.Yelp.com" c. says:

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10/16/2008 BLAKTINO "jive ass turkey" G. says:

someone at my job married a millionaire she met off eharmony, then she quit
my sister met her husband off eharmony. other that being republican, he's really cool. they're perfect for each other.

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10/16/2008 R "Meat baby" P. says:

my brother met his GF on match. he's also a millionaire but you would never have known based on his ad or the way he lives his life. his now GF didn't even think he had that much money 6 mos into the relationship.

there are good people to be found on Match. you just have to look through the b.s.

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10/16/2008 Brian "Blancito the Gentlema" N. says:

Oh snapple, BP was the shht back in the day. That's how I got my job out here, through a chick I was getting at on BP...

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10/17/2008 Pete M. says:

I have tried Nerve/Salon, Match, eHarmony, and Yahoo Personals over the past 10 years or so. I have had a few nice dates and one semi-long relationship (10 months). I haven't run into anyone who was misrepresenting herself, either in terms of appearance or facts about her life.

But I will say this: I don't know if it's me or if it's the medium (online dating), but I seem to always end up on dates with women who cannot stop talking about themselves or their lives. I mean, I'm not the most fascinating person on the planet, but I do like to be involved in the conversation beyond simply nodding every five minutes and going "Uh-huh. Really? Wow." Anyone else run into this phenomenon with online dates? Is the medium self-selective that way--does it draw primarily closet narcissists?

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10/17/2008 Marlo W. says:

Very true, Pete and the men do it to. Guess that's why they're single.

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10/17/2008 Eugene B. says:

Which site has the prettiest Asian girls with the least amount of baggage and psychos?

My mom is rushing me to get married and settle down so I don't end up like Jesus.

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10/17/2008 R "Meat baby" P. says:

oh, if it's asian women you're looking for, don't use match.

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10/17/2008 Allison "Allie" G. says:

I have a friend who met her husband on eHarmony. They didn't even date that long, it was a very speedy path to marriage. I think eHarmony is kind of marriage-minded (they want to pair you up with your soul mate).

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10/17/2008 Jill M. says:

whenever my roommate gets lonely she goes on a http://match.com date and has empty & unsatisfying sex with a random tall man with an accent.

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10/17/2008 Matt "The Beardy Dude (Fresh Ink Edition)" L. says:

I can fake an accent.

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10/17/2008 Matt "The Beardy Dude (Fresh Ink Edition)" L. says:

...and empty and unsatisfying is the kind of sex I'm best at.

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10/17/2008 R "Meat baby" P. says:

hey Allie

this is totally off topic but Julia and I saw a rerun of the episode of What Not to Wear featuring your friend ( a teacher?). That was kind of cool.

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10/17/2008 Dann "Nickname" B. says:

A friend of mine met their current spouse on http://HotorNot.com. Seriously.

and I'd avoid e-harmony. Run by crazy christians. They also have a weird policy about who they will accept onto their site. They have some expose youtube videos about it somewhere...

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11/10/2008 Tom "The Dreamer" H. says:

1. these days I am liking http://twitter.com a lot- somehow I like chatting with geeky girls :)
2. My Blackberry has http://Bluepont.com - and I look at it when I am traveling - it works
3. Even Social networking sites like http://meetup.com or http://Ning.com are cool

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12/15/2008 Kima K. says:

Jeff's right...
CL is for penis picks
Yahoo is for the financially and physically challenged
http://match.com is for the old foggies that take viagra
Online dating sucks!

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12/15/2008 Mike "'~The-Boss~'" V. says:

Anyone that will not go out with Lexy is an idiot!..What the hell more can you want?

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12/15/2008 Michael "Junior" C. says:

I've heard alot of bad things about Craigs list as far as personnels. Might be a good venue for used merchandise, but not exactly a place to meet your "dream date" I do agree that YELP might be a better choice ( after all, we all like to dine out)

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12/15/2008 Not-Fabian "BrownChickenBrownCow" T. says:

Matt "The Beardy Dude (Unabombing Edition)" L. says:

...and empty and unsatisfying is the kind of sex I'm best at.

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solo doesn't count.

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12/15/2008 Jordan "No Gimmicks Needed" W. says:

I wouldn't trust any of those E Harmony, Craigslist, MATCH, american singles. I think you would be better off meeting someone off Yelp.

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12/15/2008 Megan C. says:

My friend met her husband on EHarmony. They seem very happy. Both grounded people with nice families.

12/21/2008 Erika the Cheerleader K. says:

EHarmony was a big letdown... and they know it!! They NEVER set my mom up with ANYONE and the guys they attempted to match me with were so far out of my zip code I would have had to borrow someone else's frequent flyer miles just to grab coffee. Match was so so and Craigslist was, wait for it, wait for it... GREAT.
Living in New York makes it diff to date for various reasons, but it forces you to get over your ego and diversify your options. The goal is Love and Happiness, so most folks get crazy militant with it "by any means necessary!"

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12/21/2008 norm "brave" g. says:

seems to me anything that puts people together will work given the probability. that's why you hear all the success stories, those one in a millions, because that's what they are. not great odds. what i've found is cyberdating can lead to very good cyber relationships that have very little bearing on the reality of when the two people are in the same room. if you want something in the physical realm, there's no other way than you have to deal with the bodies. we may like to think it's all about our thoughts and checklists and such but we're not really wired that way. ALL the senses have to come into play.

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12/21/2008 Mike "'~The-Boss~'" V. says:

True Norm!

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12/21/2008 A "Let Me Be Great!" A. says:

Lexy, can I join your group?

I was a member of http://match.com and went on one pretty bad date. Not legendary bad, but still bad. It's not for me. I always found it awkward when people who specifically stated that they had no interest in black women would e-mail me. I got a refund.

I joined e harmony just to see if I could pass the test. I did. Then I closed my account.

I look at ads on craigslist and giggle.

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12/21/2008 Jamel "Team Kooties Kill" O. says:

wtf? Leave the dating sites alone and live life...you will have better luck buying a lotto ticket. If you arent finding what you are looking for, change where you are looking...after all, life is not about a destination, its about the journey...screw those sites...hell if someone's gonna limit my options to their subscriber pool.

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12/21/2008 Dorim "the nutcase" L. says:

I don't trust eharmony. After getting frustrated in not meeting any of my type, I tried to erase my profile. I couldn't figure out how to delete my file so I erased everything I'd written and stated I was 6'7" tall. Well a guy actually contacted me. I think in the end they have eharmony workers hitting on your profile so that you'll become a subscriber.

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3/11/2009 Monica R. says:

ugh.

i would agree with muna.

online dating is just as bad as offline dating in NYC.

i have lost all hope.

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3/11/2009 e l. says:

they all suck...but what jeff said way up top seems somewhat accurate....i agree with monica, ive lost all hope

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3/11/2009 Lexy "The Taste Bud Diva" M. says:

9/18/2008 I posted this on Yelp

6 months later... 3/33/2009, I met my future husband.

They exist in NY... good men exist!!! And one's who enjoy you fattening up on cupcakes! ;o)

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3/11/2009 Lexy "The Taste Bud Diva" M. says:

3/11/2009 I meant!

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3/11/2009 Monica R. says:

they do suck.

i know so many people that are in fabulous relationships from either JDate, match or CL....

i figured, why not give it a try too?

match is such a let down. i feel cheated. i want my money back damnit!

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3/11/2009 Monica R. says:

wait seriously lexy????

there is hope!

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3/11/2009 Monica R. says:

so did you end meeting him on eharmony??? hahahha.

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3/11/2009 Richard "THE CRAVE CAPER" B. says:

I never tried a site I had to pay for.

CL seems useless for dating too.

I used Crazy Blind Date recently, and met someone great.

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3/11/2009 Lena "loves siestas" N. says:

i gave in to the free http://match.com 7 day free trial...i didn't sign up after. felt like a waste of time imo.

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3/11/2009 Lexy "The Taste Bud Diva" M. says:

Hahaha no, I actually met him in a coffee shop in NY by my office... BUT

He told me he was also searching online also before...and lost hope.

Even though he and I may have lost hope, we both admit to being and looking online so chances are we COULD have found each other online.

Either way.. we met.. and I am complete :)

Ok I want to vomit now, that was beyond mushy.

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3/11/2009 Chun "Tennis Guru" L. says:

Lexy... Congrats!

Where's my invite?

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3/11/2009 Craig "Mr. Pinchy" N. says:

lexy fattening up on cupcakes....

uh huh, right. jeez lex, where does it all go? hmmmmmm?

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3/11/2009 Monica R. says:

i never paid either until a few weeks ago.

my roomie seems to be having a good time dating people off of match.

so i gave in.

blah!

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3/11/2009 Monica R. says:

congrats lexy!

what a cute story.

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3/11/2009 Mexican "Jumpin' Frijol" S. says:

wait, Lexy...you *just* met your future husband today?

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3/11/2009 Lexy "The Taste Bud Diva" M. says:

Thank you :o)

I have had some pretty BEYOND crappy boyfriends, he is the icing on my cupcake ... (umm... yeah take it how you want it)

Who knows if I will ever get married in this crazy city of NY .. but I am happy.. that's a good step. ;o)

There is hope MONICA! 9 years in ny over here....

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3/11/2009 Pete M. says:

I have been on and off all the dating sites for years--Yahoo, Match, eHarmony, Nerve/Salon. I have had dates here and there and one off/on relationship that lasted a year, but that has been it. I vacillate between giving up on the chance that I will ever meet Miss Right through one of these sites and thinking, Well, it's better to have a profile and have it active and potentially be out there than not to be out there. Right now, I'm at the giving-up-hope end of the spectrum.

Glad you met Mr. Right, Lexy! Congrats! Though, a coffee shop encounter sounds random. I've been going to restaurants and bookstores alone for years and never once hooked up with anyone that way. Do you care to share the details on how it happened?

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3/11/2009 Lexy "The Taste Bud Diva" M. says:

Haha no not today... 3 months ago. Didn't get super serious till recently...

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3/11/2009 Oriana "Me fail English?! That's unpossible!" J. says:

I'm confused too, Fati....

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3/11/2009 Lena "loves siestas" N. says:

...but i do know a bunch of people who have meet through online dating sites that are actually happily married today...so who knows.

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3/11/2009 Pete M. says:

By the way, I will say that the quality of people on eHarmony and their level of educational achievement seem to be several notches above those of people on other sites. Don't know if it's because eHarmony costs more or because its process for matching is different or some other factor. For what it's worth, I am areligious, and eHarmony was founded by an evangelist.

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3/11/2009 Monica R. says:

Thanks Lexy.

I moved out here from Los Angeles for grad school back in August. And the "dating" scene wasn't too much better in LA.

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3/11/2009 Mexican "Jumpin' Frijol" S. says:

so you didn't meet him 6 months after you posted this thread...but three months after you posted this?

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3/11/2009 Monica R. says:

For what it's worth, I am areligious, and eHarmony was founded by an evangelist.
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Oh Dear.

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3/11/2009 Lexy "The Taste Bud Diva" M. says:

I feel that sour taste in the back of your throat when your about to barf.. because the mushyness i'm about to explode is overwhelming for me, haha ;o)

Ok.. How Lexy met her New York Prince

On a rainy hump day I walked into a coffee shop on Park Ave to treat myself to a latte in the afternoon when I was able to escape from work. Stand in line, order my coffee, pick up my coffee and walk over to the "Milk & Sugar Station" to spice it up. As I'm pouring & mixing a super handsome man with salt & pepper hair is also pouring & mixing next to me. I look over at him and notice he has a name tag with his company name, my company actually works with his company (TV is a big but small industry). I make a comment about his name tag, he looks over and smiles... he paused for a second and just looked into my eyes and I totally felt blushed and focused back on my coffee. He asked me where I worked, we smiled a bit more and he asked me if I come here often for coffee and hopefully we could meet there again. He handed me his card and I walked out.

2 days later I called him, we had dinner... and 3 months later... Im head over heals and couldn't be more lucky.

Damnit NY! Your suppose to be full of assholes and doosh-bags, now look what you done to the CUPCAKE QUEEN! ;o)

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3/11/2009 Pete M. says:

Monica, I just meant that even though I'm not religious, and the questions eHarmony asks you tend to lean toward religiosity, I was still matched up with some compatible people, including the yearlong on/off relationship. I have no stake in eHarmony; just an observation. In fact, of all the dating sites, eHarmony is probably the most frustrating, because you can't browse beyond what you are sent by the site in terms of matches. If you don't like the matches, you have to wait for the next batch of matches to be sent to you. That's frustrating and makes you wonder why you're paying $60 a month (I think that's what it was last time I was active).

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3/11/2009 Katie "Number One in the Hood" G. says:

I'm too lazy to read this whole thread but if it wasn't mentioned...

go to http://okcupid.com

when i was single, it was the greatest.

and you know free.

don't pay to get laid.

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3/11/2009 Pete M. says:

Wow, thanks, Lexy, that is a terrific story! Why can't that happen to meeeeeeeeeeeeeeee? :)

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3/11/2009 Lexy "The Taste Bud Diva" M. says:

Fati haha, I mean... I posted this thread 6 months ago... 3 months after that I met my boyfriend.. and 3 months after that I am in love.

:)

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3/11/2009 jeff "walking.Yelp.com" c. says:

Lexy goes for hers. Props for that.

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3/11/2009 R "Meat baby" P. says:

My brother just bought a 4 carat ring for his GF whom he met on http://match.com.

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3/11/2009 Oriana "Me fail English?! That's unpossible!" J. says:

My $.02;

Dating is hard.

Personally speaking, I'm sure if I had used a dating website that involves complex questionnaires and algorithims, I woulda never found my SO - that's how philosophically/politically/re ligiously different we are. Sheltered republican farm boys from PA are rarely looking for jaded apathetic girls from NYC. Instead, I answered a free CL ad looking for someone to drink beer and watch Futurama with...and almost 2 years later we still do this.

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3/11/2009 MakeUp "Riff Randall Rock 'n Roller" M. says:

I did Salon, which is free, and I met some nice, cool, guys (but no chemistry). Didn't have a bad date from there.

Did a few http://match.com dates, and while the guys were cuter and the volume increased, it was a mixed bag: some creeps, some nice, some okay. Still no chemistry.

Keep on keepin' on!

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3/11/2009 Monica R. says:

I'm sorry.

But I like Oriana's story better.

HA.

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3/11/2009 Kevin F. says:

I probably have less time than most of you, but I still believe in going out and meeting people out in the open. Not just bars, join a sports team, throw an apartment party and invite friends to invite friends, go join a book club or something, anything that gets you out of the apartment and exposes you to people will get you to where you want to be.

The thing that pisses me off is how stuck up people are in NYC, its ridiculous. Not that im the friendliest guy in the world, but I am very extroverted (like Oriana and others on yelp) so get that stick or vibrator out of your ass and talk to people! At the end of the day its a probability game, the more you try the more youll suceed.

I joined yelp and met cool ass people, I joined zogsports and im sure ill meet cool as people, I went on a ski trip and met cool people, I went to a private wine tasting and was 1 of two guys there (guys take note lol). Thats all it takes, giving people a chance, hear their story because they all have one.

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3/11/2009 Jaime "way too colorful" M. says:

I'm still blown away that Lexy's so darned sure she's met her lifelong partner after three months. Good job if it turns out OK, but wow.

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3/11/2009 Oriana "Me fail English?! That's unpossible!" J. says:

+ 1 on Kevin - homie doesn't play!

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3/11/2009 Lexy "The Taste Bud Diva" M. says:

I know i'm only 26, but I been dating for 10 years, 3 serious boyfriends and never said the words I love you to any guy in my life ... till 2 weeks ago.

Sometimes things just happen... im in no rush, just happy I found someone I truly love and care for. ;o)

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3/11/2009 Kevin F. says:

Glad youre happy Lexy!

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3/11/2009 Katie "Number One in the Hood" G. says:

Happiness is golden & Contagious - Congrats lexy!

Love is real - even at 26- so don't downplay it.

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3/11/2009 Max "Mugged by the Hamburglar" S. says:

It was the ROTD. Guys find ladies with ROTD HOTTTTT!

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3/12/2009 Richard "THE CRAVE CAPER" B. says:

i take my last comment back. Girl is not great. More like crazy!

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3/12/2009 Lena "loves siestas" N. says:

what the heck is CL?

yep...i'm out of the loop

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3/12/2009 e l. says:

Craigslist......I liked the story about the Coffee Shop...Guess you never know....

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3/12/2009 miguel z. says:

Yeh I hear that Lex bars are def getting old in my advanced years lol. so I signed up for Migente once..... started chatting w/ someone that ended up having pics up of her when she was 20 when in actuality she was around 28 w/ 2 kids hahahhahha.... so yeh just be careful out there and I guess signing up for a months subscription is the same as entering a club nowadays id go w/ http://match.com.... 2 of my moms friends got married off of eHarmony so that works but then both couples avg ages are around 55 lol

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